This Five-Step Process Helps Middle Schoolers Solve Problems
When your middle schooler faces a challenge, it can be tempting to step in and provide the solution. A more effective approach is to equip your child with the skills to solve problems independently. This not only builds confidence but also prepares your middle schooler for future challenges.
Share this five-step method to help your child think problems through:
1. Define the problem. The first step is to get a clear picture of what’s going on. Encourage your child to state the problem without getting sidetracked by emotions.
2. Brainstorm solutions. Once the problem is defined, have your child list possible solutions. Don’t let your child get bogged down in analyzing them yet. Remind your child there are often more than two options.
3. Evaluate the options. Now that there are several potential solutions, your child needs to weigh the pros and cons of each. Which solution seems especially strong?
4. Make a plan of action. Your child should choose the “best” solution and create a plan to carry it out. Let your child follow the plan independently, but offer support and guidance when necessary.
5. Reassess the situation. How is the plan working? Is it helping your child solve the problem or reach the goal? If yes, wonderful! If not, suggest that your child go back to the “evaluating” step and try another solution.
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